"A Course in Miracles" – The First Quarterly Report

The “Miracles” Happening During “A Course in Miracles” – First Quarter

For the past several years, my strongest desire has been to “router-root” out my life. An entire “life transformation.” Not just a cosmetics or wardrobe makeover. Not a new job or new relationship. My core desire has been an entire, from-the-inside out transformation.

Everything that I’ve done over the past several years has been part of the same transformational process.

This has been nonlinear. Highly nonlinear. I can’t write out some sort of “strategic plan.” This transformation-from-within has been coming about very organically, and mostly – what I’m doing is “listening in.” I try to clear the superficial “crud” from the surface of my mind, and let whatever is burbling up come through.

Some might call this meditation.

I call it “cleaning house” – which occurs on more levels than one.

The biggest overt step that I’ve taken has been to start A Course in Miracles . I began several months ago, and yes – the “miracles” have been happening.

There are “daily exercises” associated with A Course in Miracles. (Many people simply refer to this as ACIM.) Right now, I’m on “Workbook Lesson” Number 105 (“God’s Peace and Joy are Mine.”) This means that I’ve been at this – officially – for a little over a quarter of a year.

What “miracles,” you might ask?

It’s different for every person.

My friend Artie has dealt with three major challenges in terms of people who’ve been very special in his life. Although he already had a great deal of spiritual maturity and insight before he began the Course, he and I both agree that there is no way that he could have handled this past year had he not been doing ACIM.

Artie reports that someone in his ACIM group has had a very challenging high-level executive job, with a major company. This man’s bosses recently gave him an additional task – a very complex and difficult one. He credits ACIM with being able to get these very difficult work-related challenges back on track. He still doesn’t leave the office “on time,” but even with all that’s going on, he leaves the office earlier than before.

Over the past three months, I’ve observed the following:

  • Month 1: I had a few days in which my energy level was sufficient to let me “surge” a couple of times. For example, I usually get up very early. (4:30 AM is my norm.) This means that if I’m to have any functionality in the evening at all, I need a nap in the late afternoon. But a few times, I had to “push.” I’d start at 4:30, and work straight through, and then have a meeting or some commitment in the evening. I managed to do the meetings – and be awake, alert, and functional. (That’s the real miracle.) This happened only a couple of times – but enough for me to notice.
  • Month 2: Somehow, I seemed to be able to “get things done” with less mental “churn” getting in the way. You know how our minds kick up “stuff” when we have to do a task that we don’t particularly like? Well, I found that I was able to simply “get to things” a bit more directly. This included the things that I did’t like. (This was in January, and I got a whole lot of drudgery background work done for marketing. And as a result, sales, bloghits, and a number of other measures went up significantly.)
  • Month 3: The real transformation started. I had an overwhelming desire to “clean house.” And yes, I’d been working on getting “the house” back to rights for almost a year. (Since a few months before publishing Unveiling.) Also, for many of us, the “spring cleaning” surge starts around February. But this year, mine was accompanied by an “inner storm.” My body needed to move; to do gross motor tasks that involved bending, lifting, moving heavy things, etc. And I did a whole lot of that. As a result, the house is now “officially” clean. (There are still isolated pockets of resistance, but will get to them over time.) This includes a great deal of paperwork clean-up as well, and that’s the real “paper tiger.”

Now I’m in Month 4. The “miracle” that’s underway? All my life what I’ve really wanted to do has been to create art. And instead, I’ve pushed myself into various intellectual and corporate roles. Right now, though, I’m cleaning and reorganizing my art room. I’m desiging a clothing collection on the theme of “orchids.” I’ve actually DONE some sketches (in the last month) – more than I’ve done in years.

More “reports from the front lines” to come. Especially – any word of progress on my “Orchids: Tame and Wild” collection!

Morocco’s "You Asked Aunt Rocky" – Fascinating Read, Significant Contribution!

Morocco’s You Asked Aunt Rocky – A Major Contribution to Dance Ethnography!

Morocco’s You Asked Aunt Rocky – the culmination of years of study, travel, practice, ad writing – has just been released via Lulu. I’ve just submitted a review article to The Belly Dance Chronicles, for their April/May/June issue, and also published a five-star review on Lulu.com, where it already has three other five-star reviews.

Currently, you can order You Asked Aunt Rocky directly from Lulu.com, and it will be available from Amazon.com by March.

Belly Dancing in Water – The "Origins of the Dance!"

Have you ever wondered how it all started? (Belly dance, that is.)

Have you ever wondered how we – as human beings – started? Apart from Creation myth(s), and God taking a rib from Adam, and that sort of thing.

How did we go from being fairly successful pre-hominids to beings with art and culture, with complex languages, and (even) complex thoughts – on topics that range from cosmology to cosmetics to cosmic knowledge.

There had to be a “transition point,” didn’t there?

And for us women, there had to be a point at which dancing evolved.

Specifically, there had to be a point at which belly dance began to evolve, because this dance form is the oldest one that there is!

Seven years ago, I traveled on business to Hawaii. After checking in and taking a short nap, I got up, put on a swimsuit and cover-up, and walked down to Waikiki beach. It was late evening; the beach was deserted. The stars were out, the weather was warm, and starlight and hotel lights sparkled off the gentle waves.

From where the waves slowly lapped the shore, I I walked out more than fifty feet from the water’s edge, until I was chest-high in the warm water. Seaweed softly stroked my skin. I relaxed, lengthened my back, and let the waves gently rock my spine.

This, I realized, is where belly dance was born.

Several millennia ago, we women took to the beaches in the blistering Pliocene-era heat waves.

Up until that time, we (or our earliest ancestral hominids) were fruit-loving forest dwellers. When the savage Pliocene-era heat and drought decimated our favored forest dwellings, we had to live in the plains. This was too hot, and much too dangerous. Being (even then), intelligent beings, we did the only intelligent thing possible. We went to the beach! (So, for that matter, did elephants and dophins, all mammals who’ve adapted to a watery environment. The dolphins stayed and adapted further, and we and the elephants eventually went back on land.) We lost much of our “fur” in the process, and gained a great deal of intelligence. (Elaine Morgan writes about how our “beach time” helped us evolve in The Descent of Women (1972); another really good smart woman’s “beach read.”)

So there I was, in the slowly, lapping waves, under a moonlit and starry night, with seaweed stroking my back and thighs. I relaxed, and “reconnected” with my ancestresses.

And guess what? My body naturally and instinctively began to do the most fundamental movement in Oriental dance (belly dance); an “undulation.” I “undulated” up and down my spine, in rhythm with the waves and the seaweed.

I floated my arms out to my sides, and let them “rest” on the soft swells of the water. Once again, naturally and instinctively, they moved on their own, in a pattern that we now call “snake arms.” It has nothing to do with snakes, not really. When we women first “evolved” this dance movement, it was because our arms naturally responded to the movements of the waves.

You can read an excerpt from Elaine Morgan’s Descent of Woman.

We (or our early pre-human ancestors) spent a lot of time in the water. Enough time to morph us into what we are today; mammals who stand on two legs instead of four; mammals who use speech (which carries beautifully over water); and mammals who have hair on our heads (to protect our heads from the sun’s rays), but who don’t need much hair on the rest of our bodies. We also became mammals who dance.

We have evolved so that standing in water, responding naturally and instinctively to a soft, gently lapping wave, is enormously soothing to us. This kind of movement releases tension. It gets us back to our “calm state.” Movements that “flow” and “undulate” our spine – whether done in water (ideal) or on land (since that’s where we now live) – help us feel good. And movements that open up our shoulders, and stretch out our pectoral muscles, and release our neck tension (especially when done in water) feel very good indeed.

Experiment on your own (if you must), or with a girlfriend or two or three, and even consider asking a belly dance teacher to come up with a “belly dance in the pool” class for you! No matter how it goe, you’ll learn (or discover) means for reducing neck and back tension, unwinding the tight spots in your clavicles and pectoral areas, and even ways for reducing the impact of carpal tunnel syndrome.

What better way to counter this summer’s heat waves? Enjoy!

Yours in dance – Alay’nya

Copyright (c) 2011, Alay’nya. All rights reserved.

Related Posts: Water Dancing and Emotional Release Through Belly Dance

Fabulous Show last night – WAMEDA Members Showcase!

June, 2010 WAMEDA Members Showcase – Great Performances!

We had such a great time at the WAMEDA (Washington Area Mid-Eastern Dance Association) Annual Member’s Showcase last night! First, congrats to Verna and Jerry Thompson of Dancer: The Unusual Store, for hosting such a fine event. Verna did a beautiful job of creating an excellent stage; lovely backdrop and plenty of room – also room in front for dancers who wanted to get close to the audience or take more space for a larger-format dance. There was a cash bar, and WAMEDA provided us with an array of light refreshments.

Verna, I love that you organized a great combination of skilled sound techs and video crew – the two factors most important in making a show go smoothly, and helping it be memorable later! I’m SO looking forward to seeing the DVD!

As usual, Gerson Kuhr (the Fitness Pharaoh) was once again our gracious and impressive host – and a walking testament to his physical conditioning regime. You looked gorgeous, Gerson! And put many of us dancers to shame – we should all be getting coaching from you, or at least working out regularly with your DVD, Core Training for Belly Dancers!

Cleopatra’s Closet was our vendor, and provided a lovely and intriguing array of scarves, hip belts, and jewelry, along with CDs and DVDs. Thank you, Carmen, for giving us such luscious shopping options! And it’s good to know that we can shop online with you as well.

Dancers included Amustela, Jaka, and others from the WAMEDA community.

I had a chance to close the show with a Candle Dance, which is part of my summer curriculum.

Unveiling — the Permissions

Dear Ones —

Today, as I get up to write to you, it is early morning – a little after 4AM. The sky is still dark, the birds are still quiet, even the tree frogs ceased their chorus several hours ago. It is in these very quiet moments that I share with you, because one of the things that I (and many other creative persons) most like to hear is: What is the creative process like? What is it like to actually write a book; to go from concept to many rough drafts to final form to the final polish?

The creative process in others fascinates us, because we hope to learn something that we can use and apply to our own endeavors.

As soon as the sun rises, and the spell of quiet-time breaks, daylight energy starts surging in and I’m part of the “practical world” once again. And now that I am so close, so very close, to getting Unveiling to you, much of what I’ve put off over the past year is now on my desk. My daily “to-do” list crawls off the page, and – just as with you – even as I write down all the “to-do’s” and attempt prioritizing, I know that I’ll only do a small fraction of what’s on the list.

And the reason, of course, that I only get a fraction of the “other stuff” done is that I’m still massively allocating time to Unveiling.

A while ago – this is about a month or so back – I could sense the energetic “completeness” of Unveiling. At some level, it was already in final form. All the chapters were in place, all the necessary concepts and thoughts were there – even though I’ve continued to get guidance and inputs, and little things that make such a difference to the final outcome still come to me. (This is much like adding the final fresh, most tender, ingredients to a long-simmered stew, just before serving.)

As I said, energetically, Unveiling was complete.

Pragmatically – now that’s an entirely different story.

I spent most of yesterday, and will spend much time over the next few days, writing the Permissions letters. These are the ones in which the author contacts the publishers of other author’s works, asking for permission to include extracts of the others’ works in their own.

In my case, I have many, MANY extracts from other author’s works. About three dozen in all.

Why so many, you might ask? After all, isn’t Unveiling supposed to be my work – not just a compilation of ideas and insights from others?

And yes, truly, it is.

But the story goes back to the origin of Unveiling.

Many years ago, I began my own quest. I realized that I had stumbled, more or less, on a “path.” In fact, I had found the “path” that I was looking for – a body/mind/psyche/energy integration pathway for women. I had spent many years prior studying martial arts, and finally (and somewhat reluctantly) concluded that they were not right for me. All that block-kick-punch-strike — too masculine. While I loved the energy, the intensity, the total awareness and physical discipline of the martial arts, they were essentially masculine. Fundamentally, they were all about fighting. As a woman, I was less and less interested in fighting; less and less interested in the masculine path. I wanted one that was, at its core, intrinsically feminine.

When I found Oriental (belly) dance, I knew that I had “come home.” And for years, I was able to find extraordinary teachers in the dance arts, much as I’d earlier found extraordinary teachers in the martial arts. (I write about them in Unveiling, and in the Unveiling website – when it is itself “unveiled” – I’ll link to their sites.)

But even though I was getting fabulous dance training, crucial aspects – the “life-path-integration” aspects – were still missing.

I craved some sort of guidance. Specifically, I craved a book.

I looked high and low, and couldn’t find one. (This was some fifteen years ago.)

In response to my own need, I began writing. And of course, books – written by others – began to emerge. They played a crucial role in what I’ll be sharing with you.

So – right now, my job is to get those Permissions letters out, day by day, until all the publishers and authors have been contacted. Then, Unveiling can rightfully give you tiny little “snippets” of insights that others have provided, and you’ll be able to follow up on your own.

This is a long job – I’ve been at it for days, and more will come. But what is exciting is that years ago – when I first started writing to you – these materials (by and large) did not exist. Or I was unaware of them. Or even – if aware – I didn’t understand the role that they would play in the final manuscript. (Again, think of cooking — and being in a well-stocked kitchen. Sometimes, we don’t realize that we need a certain ingredient – like a bit of tomato paste as well as the fresh tomatoes – until we’re well underway with the cooking!)

Now, new and relevant books, articles, webzines and blogs are producing relevant insights, every single day. This means that many of us are holding the same thoughts, and asking the same questions.

Darlings, it is time to unveil Unveiling, and I can’t wait to share it with you!

It’s been a long time – and worth the wait!

Yes, darlings – I know.

Over a year is a long, very long, time to go between blogposts.

There is a reason.

It’s the book that we all want to read.

Unveiling: An Inner Journey.

Why is this important, to you, to me, to all of us right now?

There are only three real questions in our lives:
1) What do we really want? (And can we figure this out?)
2) Once we figure out what we want, can we get it?
and – the wonderful, important question –
3) Is there a “fountain of youth,” and – if so – can we get some of it?

The answers, dear ones, are yes, Yes, and oh-so-definately-and-resoundingly-YES! (Especially to the last one.)

But it has taken me years to get these answers, and even more to write them up for you.

In fact, after over fourteen years of work, as of a year ago, this book was still not done. And while I had much of the groundwork in place, the REALLY IMPORTANT STUFF – the answers to the questions that we all have – had not yet come together.

Now they have.

The book – Unveiling – is nearly ready.

I’m in final editing, copy-editing, and final-touches-and-rewording stages.

Three more weeks, and it goes to Amazon. (Actually, to Amazon’s CreateSpace – my publisher. But for all of us, when we want to buy this, it will be listed on Amazon. And thanks to the wonders of marvelous technology, it will be listed as an “In stock, ships within 24 hours” option!

There will still be a little bit of a wait involved. (Once I get it to Amazon, because it really is a REAL book, and they have to do all the typesetting and layout and such, and I will proof designs and galleys, it will take an ADDITIONAL 10-12 weeks.) This means, we’ll actually get this book – hard copy in our hands (or Kindle, if that’s how you prefer it), sometime around the end of July or beginning of August. Certainly in time to make this a “beach read”!

And won’t we all have one heck of a party when Amazon DOES release the book? Wow, what a fabulous time we’ll all have – and the biggest hafla we’ve ever hosted!

But for now, darlings, it’s back to work. Chapter 7 needs a little rewriting. (I found just the best stuff last night, to help make it clearer and more readily pulled into our heads — now it’s time to integrate this info so the chapter will make so much more sense, so easily!)

This book is full of insights and practical knowledge that will help us change our lives!

Plus, there are stories — from my life, from some of yours (if you’ve been my students or teachers, or even co-workers and friends).

And even more – there are suggestions for very specific things that we can do to achieve breakthroughs; to create honest-to-God(dess) for-real transformations in our lives!

More soon, darlings — as I get this book ready, and uploaded, and on its journey to you, I’ll be telling you MUCH more about it!

Yours in dance — Alay’nya

Home for the holidays — with belly dance fitness DVDs

Dear Ones —

Saturday morning, early — Christmas week, 2008. For many of us, the holidays start now. Some of us will be on the road, some of us at home — whether home is quiet or filled with guests. And perhaps you, like I, have realized — no dance classes for at least two weeks! (Maybe even three or more!)

So what’s a girl to do?

Perhaps we both rely on classes — whether taking or teaching — not only for choreography, but also for a regular schedule of practice drills and even fitness. So when our class schedule temporarily abates, we need to fill in the gap. It’s either that, or get fat, out of shape, and lose both form and style! And since that is too harsh a future to contemplate, we may as well take on the alternative — which is to practice on our own.

Sometimes, there is nothing like being by yourself, alone in your studio (or your living room, or the empty fitness room in the health club — wherever!). Just you and your music, and an hour that you’ve blocked off. This can also be scary — the “blank canvas” sort of thing.

So instead of making ourselves face an empty studio each day, let’s mix it up. A little choreography time — but also some basic workouts and drill.

I started my “official” holiday season this morning, at an hour too early to mention in public, with Rachel Brice’s Tribal Fusion Belly Dance: Yoga, Isolations, and Drills: A Practice Companion with Rachel Brice. A great way to start the day! (DVD on loan from Sabira, thank you, Sabira!)

Note: You’ll always be find out more suggestions for practicing at home, including links to Rachel’s and other cool DVDs, along with neat collections of YouTubes and other support materials, at Alay’nya’s Recommendations – Practicing at Home (Intermediate).

Rachel’s DVD is really more suited for intermediate-to-advanced students than for pure beginners. She does give instruction, and she does break each technique down beautifully, and guide you through with pointers. She also repeats each move several times — so there is not too much of a “cognitive” challenge in following her. Still, this is not really the place to learn the technique — it is more like having Rachel in for a private coaching session.

 

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Today, I selected the 45-minute option (Rachel presents 15-, 30-, and 45-minute sessions). We started with a basic yoga Salute to the Sun — very basic, but well-grounded. This was followed by pelvic and rib cage isolations, and very structured body rolls (both going up and down). We followed with some final yoga stretches and relaxation in the “corpse” pose. (During the latter, there were beautiful shots of moving clouds in time-compressed video — a lovely touch for a workout that started and ended before dawn on a cloudy and cold winter day!)

Practicing with Rachel lets us experience how she structures isolations — and this is important if you’re trying to replicate her style. Personally, I find her Tribal /Fusion/Goth/Trance style intriguing — but not what I would do (favoring a bit more of a classic and lyrical approach). But still – practicing with her on her DVD makes it possible to incorporate little “snippets” of her movements into otherwise more traditional (read: predictable) dances. Kind of like wearing a bright red, patterned scarf with an otherwise traditional outfit – adds some interest and pizzazz!

(Rachel includes a short performance vid at the end of her practice session — inspiring! A very similar-in-nature performance is shown on this YouTube video clip of a Rachel Brice’s performance.)

Thank you, Rachel! We appreciate the hard work that went into making this DVD. You did a good job, this is very useful, and a real benefit to the dance community!

Raw Foods, Real People, and Cold Weather

Dear Ones —

I made a mistake last night — ate homemade beef stroganoff w/ noodles for dinner. It tasted great, was filling on a cool autumn evening, and was SO not right for my body! Not that I felt “wrong” this morning — just — not so “right.” There is a feeling that we get when we eat the right foods, at the right time — we feel “lighter and brighter.” And this wasn’t it.

So I promised myself that today would be — at least mostly — a “raw foods” day.

Perhaps I’m inspired by finding the Raw Divas’s website last night. That was a nice treat! A whole lot of advertising and promo-blather, but their hearts are in the right place, and if you read and click far enough / long enough, you do come across some useful (free!) information.

And before going further — a brief pitch for my fave raw-food read; Raw Food, Real World. Co-authors and raw foods restauranteers Matthew Kenney and Sarma Melngailis both motivate and inspire with their youthful and bouyant energy, and delightful recipes. (A word of warning: Their suggestions are rarely for those short on time, and some of the most interesting options require both a dehydrator and substantial advance preps. Barring that, the pictures and recipes are inspiring and might get some of us “over the hump” of having to devote extra time.)

As a sidebar, now that people are getting much smarter about intermet marketing “methods,” it becomes progressively difficult to wade through sites that are mostly promo-pages, with a whole lot of fluff, and very little behind them. MOST of what you would desire to find can be obtained from your local library, for MUCH cheaper than the various e-books, e-zines, and other items hawked on the net.

For example, I recommend going to the library first for your raw-food reads. Take home a bunch of books, load up on the most attractive and vibrant fruits, greens, and veggies you can get from either a farmer’s market or your most trusted food store, and find out what you REALLY do over the next week or so. A week or two in the “real world” of your own kitchen will let you connect ambition with reality. Then, and ONLY then, decide on what books you REALLY need for your long-term private libary, and what internet thing you REALLY must download, at the cost of pulling out your credit card.

That little diatrabe aside, back to raw foods — something that we dancers all need, because they deliver high-quality energy, especially if done right.

I’ll admit to being motivated — at least in part — by reading about fashion designer Donna Karan’s experience Donna Karan’s experience with a raw-foods diet. She both lost weight AND improved her energy level! Donna was mentored in her new approach by Jill Pettijohn, live-foods advocate and chef.

But, as the Karan article notes, not all of us can afford live-in chefs.

In the “real world” in which many of us live, we have two challenges when it comes to increasing the raw/live ratio of foods:

  1. Finding the time in the first place — the big challenge for all of us, and I’ll address it in a minute, and
  2. Now that it’s cold, the LAST thing we want are a bunch of cold, raw veggies. Most of the time, we can scarcely get excited about them in the summer — but who wants cold and raw when that’s exactly what we face when we go outdoors?

The time challenge first — because that is often the biggest stickler in our lives, and with holidays coming up, the last thing we need to do is to make our lives more complicated.

I have found, through sad experience, that going to the farmer’s market is an uplifting and inspiring event — so inspiring that I will often come home with MUCH more than I can use in the reasonable future. What is worse, I too often have not “connected the dots.” Between the joyous and exuberant sensory stimulus of all these wonderful fresh market things and the actual act of eating these lovely items, there is some necessary preparation. And left to my own devices, such preparation gets postponed indefinately … until I wind up chucking those once-lovely veggies that have gone well past their “use-by” date.

There are three steps that I’ve found that help me get on track, and stay on track, with the veggie-intensive approach to living. Because they work well for me, they might also work for you!

(1) Have something of an action plan before going to the food store / farmer’s market. I’m not saying that you need to be rigid — but put things together in your mind before you shop. For example, if you’ve checked the weather, and know it will be cold, windy, and rainy, you know that you will want something warm. Something that will SMELL good when you come into the house. Think about how you want to nourish yourself emotionally and sensually as well as physically.

Think also about your time-plan for the week ahead. Will you be coming home tired and late, and just want to eat and relax? Then you know you need at least one crockpot meal. Will you have an evening where you’ll come home, have a half hour or so, leave for an hour and a half, and then come back for dinner? Then think about something that can do a slow-bake in the back of the oven.

As you form up your major strategies, think through how you’re going to use your leftovers — what you want to make in extra quantities so that you have plenty for lunch or dinner later in the week. Now — the “raw” part: Around these time constraints, factor in where and how you’ll add in the “raw foods” (or those given a bare-minimal saute). Sometimes this will happen, sometimes not.

Add this to your knowledge of what is seasonal, what feels good to you right now, make a mental list and/or jot down a few notes. If you’re thinking about shopping at a Saturday morning farmer’s market, take time Thursday or Friday evening to look through your recipe books to see what inspires you. Make note of any special ingredients, and try to pick them up on the way home from work — so that you don’t expend valuable weekend time on extra shopping.

Next — and this is a big one — plan on taking at least twice as much time for your “food shopping adventure” as usual. When you get home, and AS YOU UNPACK (except for getting the things that need to be cold into the fridge), prep your foods before you stash them.

For example: If you buy onions and mushrooms, with the intention of folding them into three or four different dishes over the week, cut up the onions right away, and start sauteing them in olive oil or butter. While they start to brown, cut up your mushrooms, throw them in. Then store your pre-cooked onion-mushroom mixture, not the “raw” raw ingredients. (Yes, I know this post is about raw foods. We draw the line at raw onions. Raw onions do not enhance intimacy later in the day.)

If you bring home a cauliflower, pull off the leaves, and cut out the core. If you know that you want cauliflower “florets,” cut a bunch of them NOW, while the thing is in front of you.

This takes time. The benefit is that you increase your likelihood of actually using and eating these wonderful foods!

Third point — all on the “time-challenge” end of things. In some areas, you’ll be better off buying things that are at least semi-pre-prepped. For example, you might buy a package of cut-up butternut squash pieces. Saving yourself fifteen minutes is worth the extra expense. You be the judge.

Now, on to the REAL challenge. It’s winter. We want warm, rich foods. Not cold salads.

Step 1: We can tolerate a fair bit of raw if it is cut up small and covered in a nice, rich sauce. This is NOT a time for fat-free! (Such an idea is an insult to our system, especially in cold weather.) Remember that fats carry flavor, and fats carry fat-soluble (not water-soluble) nutrients. And we need both; the first nourishes our psyche, the latter our body.

So invest in good salad dressings, cut your veggies up small, and take both with you to the office, along with some easily-added protein — a can of fish, or a little left-over salmon, or some of those pre-cooked chicken pieces. Add guacamole or raw pine nuts for a little extra richness and flavor, and you have a totally acceptable year-round meal. Perhaps a little soup, maybe a few crackers or nuts, and you’re ok. Allow your raw-veggie salad to come to room temperature before eating; that will also help on a cold day.

Space your foods out during mid-day; a lot of our cravings come from system-crash when we push too long without nutrients.

Second, make it easy for yourself — spout some nuts (yes, get raw nuts, such as almonds, and let them sit in water overnight — then drain, and store in the fridge). Use these as a snack. Year-round, they give you not only the “raw,” but the “live” food experience. Add sprouts to your salads / sandwiches; another easy way to get “live.”

Sometimes we just need cooked foods — some foods might be too dense to be enjoyed raw; brussels sprouts come to mind. Also the heavier winter squashes, and the denser and darker greens.

Sometimes, a little saute is all that is needed. Sometimes, we must do more.

Right now, I’m learning how much I need to cook foods in order to bring out their flavor, and make them enjoyable as well as nutritious.

I’ll share my findings, and please — feel free to post a (useful) comment — especially, link us in to good books and recipes!

Fantasy Requires Determination

LETTER FROM ALAY’NYA – SEPTEMBER 2003

Fantasy Requires Determination

September, 2003

Dear Ones –

'Hot Pink: The Life and Fashions of Elsa Schiaparelli,' by S.G. Rubin.
‘Hot Pink: The Life and Fashions of Elsa Schiaparelli,’ by S.G. Rubin.
Marissa Berenson, fashion muse and icon, once quoted her grandmother Elsa Schiaparelli as saying “Fantasy requires determination.” This inspired me to read Elsa’s autobiography (Shocking Life, 1954, order via interlibrary loan). We dancers are supreme fantasists!

If we were anything less, we would be doing something much more mundane than women’s dance (from any cultural origination). But we’ve chosen a unique personal expression. Our dance does more than give us a good workout, fun with other women, and sensuality in our daily movements. It helps us connect to our “fantasy selves,” to the alter egos that we each have.

The challenge we so often feel is that while we have an extreme side to our fantasy selves, we are scared to find ways to express it. As a result, we live paler, tamer versions of the lives that we would really like to lead. And sometimes, we find ourselves on the horns of our internal dilemma. We really would like to open up, reach out, and express ourselves a bit more. Be a bit (or maybe very much) “over the top” in some ways. But then we start to give ourselves all the reasons why we have to limit ourselves.

The most important thing we can do for ourselves is to honor ourselves, and in particular, honor the aspect of ourselves that IS outrageous, over-the-top, and thoroughly in fantasy world. Dance helps us – but it is how we approach dance, and how we integrate it into our lives, and our view of ourselves, that really makes a difference.

This is where we start with the little things. We must do little tiny things that will say to each of us, “You are special, you are unique and wonderful, and this fantasy-part of you is the most wonderful aspect of all.” So here is one practical, simple way that you can give yourself this message in a very real, concrete way.

Dancer's survival travel kit: cosmetics in a coffee go-cup. Why not?
Dancer’s survival travel kit: cosmetics in a coffee go-cup. Why not?

Make a little “get-in-the-mood” kit to use on your way to dance class. Have a favorite dance CD that you listen to enroute. Take along a few cosmetics, some jewelry, and perfume. (Select one particularly exotic scent and use it as your bellydance scent; start to cue yourself towards dance with this fragrance.) Leave a few minutes early, and when you get to class, put on your “special dance things.” Then start tuning into your body, relaxing, releasing, letting go off the day’s stress, and paying attention to how you feel. Flex your feet and toes, and give yourself a quick little foot massage. You are now a goddess of sensuality – let yourself look, feel, and act that way!

Love to all – Alay’nya

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